We all have it, especially women, we try to see 100 things at the same time.
Being the best in everything. Being a perfect mother, husband, lover, businessman. I know about finances, children’s games, know how to get dressed, how to run a plane, how to talk with other people, build a house and repair a car.
And though, such a man does not exist, we strive for such an ideal, because “we should be like that”.
We take a lot of ourselves, sometimes too much, and when we fail – we forgive. Well, it does not make sense. That’s how I tried and it did not work out again. And it was supposed to go. Right?
Let’s be honest, you will not be a model father and be in the first place on the Forb list at the same time. You can not be 100% with family and 100% at work at the same time.
At the same time, nothing can be done. That is where our discouragement comes from. We envy others what they have achieved, but we forget that every success and failure has its own side. We do not hear about what these people had to neglect, unpick or put away later. This is not said, because it spoils the effect of success.
We are watching ads or social media and we think that everyone is doing better than us.
We believe that the whole world is faster, more capable, more beautiful, more interesting etc. It is not. Believe me it is not.
If you’re planning something big. Centuries of design – having a family or building a stable company, loyal clients, build a house or a ship. This is not a project for a few months, not for a year, maybe not even for 5 years. Meanwhile, most of us are planning our goals. Do everything as quickly as possible and preferably all at once.
If someone tells us that something can not be done in a year, 90% of us will be forgiven in the run up. And if we look at it rationally, some things need time. Our life is not a moment, but a process that consists of moments and episodes of time.
In that case, you will ask what to do?
Please note that the only thing valuable in this world is time and should be used as best as possible.
You will not lose weight in a week, but after 3 months of proper diet and exercise, you will see the first effects. You will not have a child in a month, but in 9 -yes. You will not build trust in the company for a year, but it is very likely in 5 that you will succeed.
Choose a project for yourself, take note that you need it for its time, effort and sacrifice. And devote this thing completely. Speaking completely I do not mean that if you decide to lose weight, you have to practice and think about food and day, look for new recipes, run to the gym every now and then. No, it does not work like that.
Choose time for yourself during the day, if you decide to sacrifice your task an hour or three it does not matter. It is important to be your body at this time, thoughts, will, soul and heart are as focused as possible on the task you are doing.
Your 100%. Your. Not someone else.
Do not look at someone doing better or doing something faster. You do not compete with this someone. You only compete with each other yesterday. If you approach it in this way, you will leave the feeling of being worse, or someone better than another person. This leads to narcissism or depression in the long run. Each of these two extremes is very unfavorable to you.
That’s why you spend all of it for the things you’ve decided to do. Make them regulate, every day, in full concentration. Competing only with yourself. Your 100% may not be like that from yesterday, but it’s your 100% for today and that’s fine.
The most important thing is to be aware of why you do it? And do it everyday. Time will flow with your rhythm, and before you look, your goal will be at your fingertips. How cool is that?